I'm a simple girl with a li'l dream, of seeing her humble works in exquisite print, to share with all who feels for words, written with
an unsupressable urge. So indugle in my fantasies, and plow your way through my memories, greatly appreciated you will be,
if you can leave your comments here for me.

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

death by the bottle

The song you hear on this blog is Whiskey Lullaby, performed by Brad Paisely and Allison Krauss. It an extremely moving and heartwrenching piece, and I feel a painful stab of sorrow in my heart each time I hear the song.

I know how it feels to be broken so badly that all you wanted to do is "put that bottle to your head and pull the trigger". Such a simple and direct metaphor, but yet so excruciatingly poignant. I hope no one has to ever go through this, and that no matter what love does to you, you should never ever die by the bottle. Or by anything else for that matter.

Life is short, so please....don't make it any shorter.


She put him out like the burnin' end of a midnight cigarette
She broke his heart, he spent his whole life tryin' to forget
We watched him drink his pain away a little at a time
But he never could get drunk enough to get her off his mind
Until' the night

He put that bottle to his head and pulled the trigger
And finally drank away her memory
Life is short but this time it was bigger
Than the strength he had to get up off his knees
We found him with his face down in the pillow
With a note that said, "I'll love her till I die"
And when we buried him beneath the willow
The Angels sang a whiskey lullaby

La la la la la la la, la la la la la la laa
La la la la la la la, la la la la la la laa

The rumors flew but nobody knew how much she blamed herself
For years and years, she tried to hide the whiskey on her breath
She finally drank her pain away a little at a time
But she never could get drunk enough to get him off her mind
Until' the night

She put that bottle to her head and pulled the trigger
And finally drank away his memory
Life is short but this time it was bigger
Than the strength she had to get up off her knees
We found her with her face down in the pillow
Clinging to his picture for dear life
We laid her next to him beneath the willow
While the Angels sang a whiskey lullaby

La la la la la la la, la la la la la la laa
La la la la la la la, la la la la la la laa
La la la la la la la, la la la la la la laa
La la la la la la la, la la la la la la laa


To learn more about the song, check out its story on Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whiskey_Lullaby

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Relationships are hard

Artwork by *ReehBR

Relationships are hard.

I believe that humans are fundamentally selfish. More often than not, we tend to put ourselves first before others. What we feel. What we think. What we want. What we are looking for. What makes us happy. What makes us comfortable.

That is why when two people enter a relationship, tension and conflict usually follow closely after the petals of love and romance have fallen off.

No one realises that loving someone and being with someone can actually take so much out of you. It is not a simple equation of giving and receiving love in return. A lot of relationships require a hell lot of sacrifice, and an amazing level of tolerance. It demands that you forget your needs and desires sometimes, so that you can fulfil those of your partner. It expects you to be forgiving and understanding , even during the times when you think you have every right to be a bitch. It totally compels you at times even to turn away from who you really are, to be someone else he prefers you to be.

One would like to assume when you love someone, these actions come naturally. You naturally want to be a better person for your partner. But as a human being like everyone else, I am not infallible. I am innately selfish and I cannot change that.

That's why sometimes when the self becomes more important than the other person, conflict becomes inevitable. We can only hear ourselves. Our needs suddenly become more amplified, and nothing else matters but how we feel, what we want. It is so easy to slip back into that selfish state of mind, and how justified it felt at that point in time too.

And it feels liberating to feel like that sometimes. I have always lived my life for others, and allowed them to make me feel guilty for doing otherwise. Even till today. Many times, I have wanted to shed that selfless facade, that all forgiving nature, and scream my lungs out. I want to lash out at all those who have hurt me, and be that selfish bitch who cares only for herself.

I can hear myself screaming, but no one else can. I am too disciplined to let that happen. My upbringing has moulded me into a conformist.

And maybe that's why relationships are so much harder these days. We are in conflict not only with the person we are with, but with ourselves as well. The war we fight internally rages on, even during the good times. Because deep inside, we want to live for ourselves. We want to be ourselves. But in a relationship, the couple should always take precedent over the self for it to last, and hence the self has to be locked away in the depths of our heart.

It's for the greater good, they say.

Relationships are hard. They are a beautiful dream to possess, but a harsh reality to live in.

And for a person like myself, it may take me forever to come to terms with that.

The Ugly Truth

I watched The Ugly Truth today, and found it to be surprisingly refreshing and hilarious. Although rated crass and even crude by some critics, this movie cuts painfully close to reality.

Gerard Butler plays a TV host who dishes out advice on dating, sex and relationships - and is brutally blunt about what men are looking for in a woman - tits and ass. In the show, he claims that men don't fall in love with personalities; they fall for what turns them on in the first instance. Men - according to his theory, cannot be trained. Their life lessons stopped at toilet training, and it's almost impossible to change or train them. They are simple, and their needs even more so.

He revealed many other interesting tidbits - which I suspect many women already know, but are in denial and refusing to accept as what he calls the "Ugly Truth". Men love a woman with sex appeal. They are adverse to control freaks. They don't really care for your problems. Women don't need self help books - they need a stairmaster to get them in shape so that men would look at them, admire their shapely curves and imagine what it would be like to bed them. Flirt, play games, pretend to be someone you're not, wear sexy clothes that capitalize on your assets - if you plan to snare the guy you want.

It's depressing I know - yet I hate to admit that the movie rings of so much truth. I have dated many men in my life, and maybe it's really my luck that 90% of the men I have met, kissed and dated, were exactly as what Gerard Butler has described in the movie. They are all visual creatures, loved to be seduced, not remotely interested in your sob stories, and would very much prefer to spend their time frolicking in bed then go picnicking in the park.

Some women may say that this only applies to the bad boys we tend to fall head over heels in love for. But somehow, I have this nagging feeling that it applies to all men. They are who they are, and probably this is exactly how they are wired. We just didn't want to believe it because our desire to be romanced by Mr Right outweighs our ability to comprehend that men is far more simpler than we think they are.

Like what my guy used to say,"The truth hurts, but it will set you free."

Inspired by Steve Santagati, author of "A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate--and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top".

Friday, June 26, 2009

Tribute for Michael Jackson, King of Pop


A,B,C - it's easy as
And here's a short story
That's oh so iffy
As a kid he
and his brothers jived
Together they were five

Almost instantly
An icon came to life
Imbruing the universe
Living his ideated lie

Diana Ross,
she's his ingle
He wants to be her
The knife's cold
The incisions swift
His face rearranged
Just to look impish

Where the world used to
The MOONWALKER's night
Those colors have since
faded into purely BLACK OR WHITE
Neverland kids' finally drove
The final nail
Betrayed his love
and erected his tomb
So the issue now is
He's BAD
Just beat it

Starlitecafe's 10 Word Challenge: - icon - ideate - iffy - illume - imbrue - impish - incise - ingle - inward - issue

To Michael - the biggest star of all time.

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Saving Charmaine Lim

I was recently alerted to the case of Charmaine Lim, a 4-year-old girl who is suffering from neuroblastom , a most common form of cancer that afflicts young children. In Charmaine's case, the doctors discovered a tumor outside her liver on the lymph nodes and nerves - and other traces of cancer can also be found in her bone marrow.

At this point in time, Charmaine's mother, Cynthia (a single mum) is trying hard to raise funds for the girl's cancer treatment in the US - which will give Charmaine a 40-50% chance of survival. The drug used for this treatment is unfortunately only available in clinical trials, which means the Singapore hospitals have no access to it. If Charmaine continues to stay here for treatment, her chances for survival would be very slim.

The family is looking to raise USD 350,000 for the treatment - but as the amount is absolutely staggering (particularly in these times), their efforts in fund raising have been slow. I would like to appeal to anyone who is reading this to try and spread the message - and extend the beacon of hope to Charmaine and her family, who's trying their utmost to save her life

Apparently, her case has also been highlighted across various news platforms:

You can also visit her website at http://www.ourfeistyprincess.com/ and blog http://ourfeistyprincess.blogspot.com/ which details her illness and gives the latest updates on her current status (she just got out of the operating theatre today).

You can also read more about her illness and view her most recent photos in this powerpoint presentation.

If anyone of you would like to make a donation, please click here for instructions. Family and friends of Charmaine will also be organising various fund raising activities to help raise the money required for her treatment - which you can participate in if you would like to help out in ways other than donating money.

Thanks everyone for taking the time to read this - and just know that any form of help that you can give (fund raising, donation or simply spreading the word) - will go a really long way.

Have a good day.

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

everyone needs a slumdog

it's a simple movie with no mindblowing effects
it's a simple story without the colourful villians we see in Gotham city
it's a simple man whom we would never have known if not for this movie
it's a group of simple actors quite unlike the stellar cast of Ocean's 12
it's shot in a simple country with no skyscrapers or fancy cars

but yet, despite this simplicity
it proved that it was no underdog
the Academy bestowed upon the film
the honour of 8 Oscars

the beauty of this recognition is hope
because the story goes
no matter who you are
no matter where you are from
no matter what you have (or don't have)
slumdog or underdog
dreams may come true after all

in times like these where everything seems to go wrong
everyone needs a slumdog

Sunday, February 22, 2009

there's always a first time

Artwork by *Nonnetta

i had my first job at 12
my first kiss at 13
I tried smoking at 14
and found out i hate nicotine
i found lipstick and perfume at 15
was a hot clubber by 16
held two jobs when i was 17
met my ex in poly at 18
at 19 i was hired by mtv
and saw my first celebrity at 20
went on the plane for the first time at 21
had an abusive relationship at 22
23 i stood crying in the rain
fell in love with someone three years younger at 24
had my first long distance relationship at 25
and my heart broken a year later at 26
started blogging at 27
promoted to manager at 28
graduated with 2nd upper class honours at 29
and met my future beau at age 30
he proposed when i was 31
and gave me a home at 32

i have yet to reach 33
so here i shall end my blog cv
there's always a first time for everything
and that's what make life
- so messy -

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

the book, the blog and the movie

Once upon a time 4 years ago, I found a really cool book and bought it for a girl friend who was having boy problems.

Then I blogged about it here.

Now they have made it into a movie.

Maybe they will make it into a song soon.

Or a talk show. (Any takers - Oprah? Tyra? Ellen?)

Monday, February 16, 2009

All good things...

...must come to an end.

Loyalty is underrated.

In a relationship, respect precedes love. Always.

Don't compromise. But if you do, live with it.

What goes around doesn't always come around. Sometimes it just disappears completely.

When things don't go your way, pray.

If death can solve all problems, nobody will be alive to see the solutions.

Nobody is perfect, but we can all learn to be a little less imperfect.

Life is never fair. Suck it.

The winner takes it all. That's a fact.

YOU should never be more important than ME.

I am not different. I am just unique.

== Random thoughts on random space ==

Artwork by ~kponge