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Thursday, February 02, 2006

An Eulogy


In loving memory of
Kelvin David
25 November 1977 ~ 13 January 2006

I am dedicating this blog entry to a dear friend of mine, Kelvin David, who passed on recently on January 13, 2006. He was 29 years old.

I met Kelvin on Friendster.com. On July 19, 2005, I received a message in my friendster's mailbox:

heya there....hows it going?....hope the days coming along real nice for you. i saw your picture right here online...and thought i'd send you a lil msg just to say hi. i mean if i cant use this friendster thingamagic to make new friends then i dont see its purpose at all. so if you're up for some shits and giggles...holla back yah. you can add me on MSN if you have that or if you like reading, i think i have a pretty good read on my blog...you know with me living with a terminal illness and all: www.kelvindavid.blogspot.com

well...i said the msg would be short...so keep my word i shall. you take care and keep safe. keep smiling. enjoy the rest of your day and week ahead i reckon. hope to hear from you soon.

God Bless.

kelvin d.

That's Kelvin for you. He was frank, straightforward, confident and possessed the most positive attitude on life I have ever seen.

When I first met him for dinner, I was pretty impressed by what I saw. He was literally tall, dark and handsome, and spoke extremely well. His eyes were bright and intense, as if they were devouring every twitch of emotion that flickered across your face.

He flashed a big grin when he saw me and held out his hand. I instantly warmed up to this stranger, whom I could not help feeling an aching pain for in my heart. Kelvin had a perfectly shaved head, which emphasized his sharp facial features and piercing eyes. Somehow, I felt that being skinhead was probably more a result of chemotherapy than of choice. But he looked extremely at ease, and happy.

Yes - "happy" is the word I would use to describe Kelvin. A guy like him would live forever in my mind as the most inspirational person of my life. Despite the chains of cancer tugging mercilessly at his life for the last 6 years, Kelvin soldiered on - bearing the armour of Faith on his frail body. He could be in excruciating pain. He could be feeling nauseous from the medication. He could be pricked with needles all over. He could be puking whatever he had just eaten.

But the Kelvin that appeared in front of me was always smiling. Always chirpy. Always witty and mean (at times!). Always gregarious. And always have something to say.

He regaled my friends and I with stories of his fight with cancer. He spoke of it as if it was no big deal - probably to make us feel better. His faith and love for the Lord swept him high up on a pinnacle of peace, arming him a knowledge of a paradise beyond the world we live in. He made no excuse for being ill, and lived life to the fullest. He believed we should cherish all the people we have around us, because we have something he didn't.

He didn't have time.

Kelvin was the one guy who has touched me with his amazing courage. He knew his time was limited. He knew how much time he had left - as we practically counted down the months he would be with us. He knew too that he would not waste his life moping in misery, or throw a self-pity party. He expressed himself verbally whenever he could. He threw caution to the wind. He took risks and accepted challenges. He laughed heartily and teased relentlessly. He was generous with his compliments and frank with his opinions.

Most of all, Kelvin was emotionally strong and highly positive - constantly showering words of encouragement on his friends - even when he was the one who needed them most. I remembered he would look me in the eye and tell me never to look down on myself.

The last time I saw him, he said I was a wonderful girl and that any man who won my heart would be the luckiest guy on earth.

I have always thought of myself as a strong woman, someone of astounding courage and strength. Knowing someone like Kelvin has humbled me immensely. If I have been in his shoes, I might have great difficulty walking in them. Those shoes were laden with lead and spikes, threatening to rip your soles apart if you step ever so lightly on them with your barenaked feet. But tread on them Kelvin did, and he even skipped in them in a spirited dance - warming my heart with his sunshine smiles and egging me on with his indestructible strength.

Kelvin always knew that the Lord was with him - and he found solace in that.

I am sorry I have not been a better friend. I am sorry I wasn't there when you left. But I will always miss you and remember what you meant to me. You may not know, but your incredible spirit lives on in me. Whenever I feel defeated, I will think of you in your spiked shoes, and I will draw myself up in strength and be comforted by the memories of your beautiful smile.

Thank you Kelvin for who you are - wherever you are.

"I've always thought of writing as a long ride...you never really get to end of anywhere, you might think it’s the end of the ride but it’s just not over. "

- Kelvin David

26 comments:

Mini_viv said...

Such a heartfelt blog, I'm sure Kelvin will be glad to have us around as much as we appreciate his presence on every gathering we had. I'm blessed that he had once walked through part of my life with me. Though the stroll is short, it's definately a pleasant journey.Kelvin, you still live on in everyone's heart!

Anonymous said...

Actually... why grief when you believed that he had joined Lord? Or think he had taken a different flight to start another episode...

busybee said...

I would be glad if I have to pass away too... cos I know where I am going and where my destination will be... so is Kelvin, your friend.

But grief is natural for those who are left behind, 'cos we feel the lost of someone dear.

Take heart, Elvina.

Runaway said...

Just want to express ... some condolence, if only it is appropriate. This is the entry that I see some good writing styles and expressions. If since writing is also an important theme other than death, krudos for that excellent post! Keep it up!

Anonymous said...

Thank you. Reading what you wrote gave me great comfort and a gentle lift. Even though I do not know him. I am humbled as I wallow in my own misery as he so bravely walked on.

Cheryll said...

Yes, Kelvin was one amazing person - strong in spirit, genuine at heart and always generous in sharing joy & laughter.
It's a real blessing to have known him and been inspired by him.

Kelvin, we know you're still smiling from where you are, as you always have.

suspiciousbastard said...

If he had lived everyday fully, I doubt that he would be unhappy.

mel said...

My condolences

palahniuk said...

Kelvin.. I took care of him whilst i was posted to the nuh oncology department last december.. never knew he had a blog.. he must be one of the strongest personality ive ever seen. what a great dude, what a friend..

Aristocrat said...

Silence is perhaps the most apt here...

Catherine *MeowMeow* said...

I do not know Kevin personally, but i do admiring him having a positive attitude n lives his life to the fullest from reading this entry.

Perhaps it's time i should start doing that.

We should b happy for him for he is with God now.

My condolence...

Booker said...

I wish I knew him personally. I'm somehow very inspired by him. From what he blogs, I see that he's a very good person.

Life is fucking unfair.

Grave Digger said...

Where can we find the richest resource in the world?

Richer the Oilfields in Saudis, and the diamond caves in Africa.

It's a place not far from home, it's called the Cemetry.

It's a place where life ends and Dreams and potential cease to exist. Where Kings and Queens wash their hands off humanity and silently stay in a forever stasis.

And if there is a time where your life can move one's heart, or change the course of one's life.
You have not lived in vain.

My condolences.
Your life has moved moutains

Alphabet Moppet said...

Through your link, i went to read his blog and no doubt, i've found inspiration to live life courageously as he had done and i believe others reading it would render the same kind of sentiments. The legacy he left behind will not be forgotten.

Richard said...

A beautiful testament to him.

People like him are very inspirational. Now if only we could embody that inspiration rather than just get a nice warm fuzzy feeling out of it.

KuraKat said...

In Him we Trust

Life is beautiful said...

Wow!
My condolences Elvina.

eisen said...

Been asking abt Kelvin for some time. Somehow, i felt the urge to read your blog. It grieves me as much as it brings me joy to know that Kelvin is now with the Lord.

Kelvin: I look forward seeing you when it's my time to be call back. Till then...

Let the Lord be our Strength!

surfie77 said...

very saddened and shocked to hear the news of his sudden departure :p only knew him briefly at thumper.... very inspirational dude.. take care, Kelvin!

Anonymous said...

sorry to read that you've lost such a wonderful friend...

Robin Emmanuel Tan said...

hello there...
it is nice to read abt my best frd kel....
dont mind if i add your site to my blog...

thanks..

trust me.. kelvin is in a better place....

robin emmanuel

Elvina aka LaoNiang said...

Thanks Robin. Can i have your blog address too?

Robin Emmanuel Tan said...

sure...
www.emmanuellife.blogspot.com

Jade Falcon Elite said...

I remember Kelvin myself too having met him a couple of times. He has left us all with wonderful memories during the short time he's been with us. He said some things to Elvina during his last meeting in which I can only say, it will come true.

U have lived well Kelvin. U are the inspiration of many.

E said...

i do wish i noe him personally. life is unfair but i guess, the Lord probably wants Kelvin to be at his side more. i was feeling really really very depressive again lately, until i read ur blog today. i read it weekly and somehow, the things u write alway put so much sense and ease in me. I'm still learning how to appreciate my life again.

Elvina aka LaoNiang said...

Thank you all for your comments. For those of you who does not know Kelvin, if he ever has the chance to read this blog, I am sure he will be deeply moved by the things you have penned in here.

E: Sorry to learnt of your depression. I am comforted that my blog entries can bring you some peace of mind, and I thank the Lord everyday for giving me this gift for words - and that whatever I share can influence the people who reads it.

I do pray that I can continue to inspire and that my words can continue to soothe the raw edges in your life and emotions.

Take care.