tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post115021023877456895..comments2023-10-30T17:29:21.098+08:00Comments on I Am What I Am: Mr. Right IIElvina aka LaoNianghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15893665433932815353noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1151927778985747792006-07-03T19:56:00.000+08:002006-07-03T19:56:00.000+08:00Years ago, I asked God to give me a spouse, "You d...Years ago, I asked God to give me a spouse, "You don't own because you didn't ask" God said. Not only I asked for a spouse but also explained what kind of spouse I wanted. I want a nice, tender, forgiving, passionate, honest, peaceful, generous, understanding, pleasant, warm, intelligent, humorous, attentive, compassionate and truthful. I even mentioned the physical characteristics I dreamt about. <BR/><BR/>As time went by I added the required list of my wanted spouse. One night, in my prayer, God talked to my heart: "My servant, I cannot give you what you want." <BR/><BR/>I asked, "Why God?" and God said "Because I am God and I am fair. God is the truth and all I do are true and right." <BR/><BR/>I asked "God, I don't understand why I cannot have what I ask from you?" <BR/><BR/>God answered, "I will explain. It is not fair and right for Me to fulfill your demand because I cannot give something that is not your ownself. It is not fair to give someone who is full of love to you if sometimes you are still hostile, or to give you someone generous but sometimes you can be cruel, or someone forgiving; however, you still hide revenge, someone sensitive;however, you are very insensitive...." <BR/><BR/>He then said to me: "It is better for Me to give you someone who I know could grow to have all qualities you are searching rather than to make you waste your time to find someone who already have the qualities you want. Your spouse would be bone from your bone and flesh from your flesh and you will see yourself in her and both of you will be one. Marriage is like a school. It is a life-long span education. It is where you and your partner make adjustment and aim not merely to please each other,but to be better human beings and to make a solid teamwork. I do not give you a perfect partner, because you are not perfect either. I give you a partner with whom you would grow together"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1151337926096571502006-06-27T00:05:00.000+08:002006-06-27T00:05:00.000+08:00I enjoyed this post, the kind of post that make on...I enjoyed this post, the kind of post that make one think more and deeply.<BR/>Another quote I remember is "How your partner make you a better person."ethanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13836288409718870100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150709255925862452006-06-19T17:27:00.000+08:002006-06-19T17:27:00.000+08:00Happiness is a choice. We have to constantly choos...Happiness is a choice. We have to constantly choose to be happy instead of fuming and sulking over people who cross us.Mockingbirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06138644598929711369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150709180351081222006-06-19T17:26:00.000+08:002006-06-19T17:26:00.000+08:00the more important questions for you are....how mu...the more important questions for you are....how much longer can you endure? how many more people do you have to eliminate before you feel right? <BR/><BR/>I agree with Richard. friendship is a much more comfortable relationship compared to mating-motivated relationship.<BR/><BR/>The most important thing in life is being happy doing what we think makes us happy now. Nothing else matters.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150576861672447482006-06-18T04:41:00.000+08:002006-06-18T04:41:00.000+08:00wow... such a meanigful and straight to the point ...wow... such a meanigful and straight to the point post. I do hope i can be Mr Right to my future gf, shall try my very best.<BR/><BR/>btw, i'm kampungkai, one of the contributors in Peter Kua's MALAYSIAN ISLANDS: THE GOOD, THE BAD, & THE FINEST. saw your link and decided to drop by and have a look, nice to meet u.<BR/><BR/>i bet u had a wonderful time in Sibu ya? Do come visiting again. :)Kampungkaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01839363673218534483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150541827365957272006-06-17T18:57:00.000+08:002006-06-17T18:57:00.000+08:00I so totally agree with u, elvina, especially the ...I so totally agree with u, elvina, especially the part where you wrote that we love someone because we WANT to. This is so encouraging. I hope my next 'Mr Right' will be much better than my last. Life's so short, why cant guys just treasure the ones with them rather than trying to hunt new grounds perpetually?Piphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13895446608591834363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150362575534273442006-06-15T17:09:00.000+08:002006-06-15T17:09:00.000+08:00I think the keyword is 'accept'. Like what you wro...I think the keyword is 'accept'. Like what you wrote in the 3rd paragraph. Until one can accept the other as Mr/Ms Right, one will continue that endless hunting for the Right one.Anonymous_Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15776623568163530929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150340528657653492006-06-15T11:02:00.000+08:002006-06-15T11:02:00.000+08:00I can accept that there is such thing as "fated". ...I can accept that there is such thing as "fated". For me, I can only hope that she'll be there when she's supposed to be there. But one can't really be sure if fate has someone allocated for everyone.<BR/><BR/>There seems to be people who are fated to be single all their life. I happen to know of one, and that person had just recently passed away too.Ole' Wolviehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15829710911370218003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150309603180166322006-06-15T02:26:00.000+08:002006-06-15T02:26:00.000+08:00Hey, Booker here, I'm posting under my own name no...Hey, Booker here, I'm posting under my own name now. Haha.<BR/><BR/>Hmm. To me, there is only one fine line between Mr Right and Mr Perfect.<BR/><BR/>Mr Perfect, should be rich, takes care of you, sweet to the core, never gets angry with you and accepts for who you are. They are like your Dad in one way, a provider for you needs.<BR/><BR/>Mr Right, on the other hand, may or may not have the qualities that I mentioned above. But you will think that he is the right one for you. Its all about attraction.<BR/><BR/>And I kinda agree that you drifted into perfection again.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I haven't seen you on MSN for a pretty long time, busy eh?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150268538299791862006-06-14T15:02:00.000+08:002006-06-14T15:02:00.000+08:00The heart knows reasons that Reason does not.Appre...<I>The heart knows reasons that Reason does not.</I><BR/><BR/>Appreciate the glimspe to your heart through this entry. Keep it up girl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150265181381803432006-06-14T14:06:00.000+08:002006-06-14T14:06:00.000+08:00woohoo!! nice work, woman. ;)i wrote abt mr. right...woohoo!! nice work, woman. ;)<BR/><BR/>i wrote abt mr. right too. :P o long time ago.<BR/><BR/>http://www.mistyeiz.com/2005/08/11/mr-perfectsighs-blissfully/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150258476519673252006-06-14T12:14:00.000+08:002006-06-14T12:14:00.000+08:00"Mr. Right is not about how good or how loving, ro..."Mr. Right is not about how good or how loving, romantic, understanding, rich, tall, dark and handsome he must be in order to qualify as Mr. Right."<BR/><BR/>Abt the above characters, i hav one particular figure dat actually crossed into my mind. Mr Bill Cosby.<BR/><BR/>As what Richard said. <BR/>This entry..overall is a good read.<BR/><BR/>Anyway..this is a woman's problem not mine cos I am always the 'Mr Right'. <BR/><BR/>Just that..those women dont know how to find me.Prince Romphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06286241425322078485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150253391129158652006-06-14T10:49:00.000+08:002006-06-14T10:49:00.000+08:00This is an interesting entry. I like it a lot, esp...This is an interesting entry. I like it a lot, especially the concluding quote. Do you think I could I have your permission to plagiarise it in my blog? I'm a sucker for quotes, you know, so I hope you don't mind ...Icemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03368596248634886166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150246039392484022006-06-14T08:47:00.000+08:002006-06-14T08:47:00.000+08:00i totally agreee with Mr Perfect vs Mr Right. Love...i totally agreee with Mr Perfect vs Mr Right. Love just comes at the weirdest times. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes I look back at the crushes I had and wonder what the hell was I thinking when I liked them????<BR/><BR/>When you meet someone you love you just fall for them. That's why it's called falling in love. You do not think before you fall - you just do. And that love may be painful, or it may teach you lessons you might never learn if you never did fall. You either appreciate it and stay in there, or you regret it and climb out of it. <BR/><BR/>But sadly, unless Mr Right is not downright Mr UN-Perfect with many problems of his own, then of course, you just gotta let go of this Mr Right. Another one will come, for god knows how long, but he will.sereneannabellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05696572309840475962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150239373869195522006-06-14T06:56:00.000+08:002006-06-14T06:56:00.000+08:00Love is about commitment (very important part), it...Love is about commitment (very important part), it is also about sharing, about wanting the best for the other person and together.<BR/><BR/>There is no perfect relationship, but judging from what I have seen, many seem to suffer truly horrible ones in the hope it is the right one.<BR/><BR/>Of course, another problem is getting involved too quickly and letting emotions override any rational thought process.<BR/><BR/>Overall, a good read. <BR/><BR/>I should point out that things which might be small annoyances when you are friends, easily become HUGE issues when you are married.Richardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08466885792177930052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150223090636404592006-06-14T02:24:00.000+08:002006-06-14T02:24:00.000+08:00hehe i like the "you love him - just because you d...hehe i like the "you love him - just because you do" :) oh there is this book "He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guy" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. You should read that.. it's very funny but sometimes in a crude way!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150219920681675872006-06-14T01:32:00.000+08:002006-06-14T01:32:00.000+08:00Let your Right be RIGHT...What's the difference be...Let your Right be RIGHT...<BR/><BR/>What's the difference between perfectly right or rightly perfect?<BR/><BR/>There's a difference indeed...<BR/>The former is good and the later was good.<BR/><BR/>Thus is the Mr Right today could easily become Mr Wrong tomorrow as it only exist in the vague standard of feeling that exist in the emotional plane of a particular lady and not anywhere else.<BR/><BR/>The very void exist in everyones heart that yearns to be filled... Cause a hunger for a perfectly right relationship which can never be fulfilled. As the nagging feeling continue to nags on...<BR/><BR/>May sound like one big wet blanket here but its just my humble opinion. <BR/><BR/>For your reference only as am not trying to convince anyone of anything... :Pnjshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11313544483019278063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150219698645317702006-06-14T01:28:00.000+08:002006-06-14T01:28:00.000+08:00Well said. Shall direct some of my victimized love...Well said. Shall direct some of my victimized love-struck female friends over here. Heh.<BR/><BR/>Now I've found love myself, I do realised.<BR/><BR/>No one’s perfect, but we both know we’re lucky to find each other to make a whole, all this while.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150217677225410872006-06-14T00:54:00.000+08:002006-06-14T00:54:00.000+08:00A wise woman once said,"The happy moments you see ...A wise woman once said,"The happy moments you see in a loving couple are always captured in photo albums. But what you will never get to see in those photos are the painful and heartbreaking moments that they went through to be together."<BR/><BR/>Tis very true and happened to myself after we've committed to each other..the painful and heartbreaking moments were so unbearable that I almost give up n marrying my husband then..<BR/><BR/>But the love and faith kept us together until we were united as husband and wife..now with childrens...we actually broke all the 'berlin and china walls' built around us just to be together..and we've reached this far..<BR/><BR/>I've never believed in searching for Mr Right, fate has been destined for everyone of us..'he' will come knocking on your heart one day without you expecting it..Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16526389187632176974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150215697913155982006-06-14T00:21:00.000+08:002006-06-14T00:21:00.000+08:00I cannot help but to totally agree with you with t...I cannot help but to totally agree with you with this para, <BR/><BR/>"Even if you feel like running away, even if the nagging feeling is so strong, and even if you very much want to throw everything you have for this guy away - you will realise, you can't.?"<BR/><BR/>I do have the nagging feeling of walking out of my marriage before. I even find 1001 reasons for myself to run away, but I know, I can't. <BR/><BR/>For so many years, my hubby seem to be the one and only one for me! The feeling of losing him after detecting a cyst in my breast (I tht is breast cancer while waiting for my medical report) is unbearable! <BR/><BR/>I hope you can find your Mr Right very soon!<BR/><BR/>Jia You.... CheerSunflowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460714115400871705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150213947386599232006-06-13T23:52:00.000+08:002006-06-13T23:52:00.000+08:00Isit? which part? I was not talking about perfecti...Isit? which part? I was not talking about perfection. I was talking about trying hard to make it right in the midst of an imperfect relationship.Elvina aka LaoNianghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15893665433932815353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7537984.post-1150213354961570652006-06-13T23:42:00.000+08:002006-06-13T23:42:00.000+08:00Interesting column, well worth the wait. I think t...Interesting column, well worth the wait. I think the friends that you mentioned were all looking for Perfect instead of Right.<BR/><BR/>Also, halfway through yr piece, it seemed like you were talking about 'perfection' again.Cavalockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14180674877360799676noreply@blogger.com